Til death do us part

Alex

hola

11:20amVanessa

hello

11:20amAlex

how are you doing this fine morning

11:21amVanessa

um im doing good...just doin some wash...How are you?

11:21amAlex

I'm just slacking at work

11:21amVanessa

im sure thats wat i will b doin later

11:22amAlex

nice

anything new?

11:23amVanessa

um not really...gettin outa this town for a week which will be nice...never took a vaca b4 and im gona love every min of it

11:24amAlex

Nice

where you going?

11:25amVanessa

Going to TX

11:28amAlex

nice

this summer I get to go to mexico for the first time

I'm pretty excited

and for a wedding too

11:29amVanessa

yup...just to get outa here is nice

i want to go to mex and im sure some time soon i will

11:29amAlex

yeah, get out for a bit, it's good to unwind. any plans when you go there, or just go where the road takes you?

11:31amVanessa

um goin to see my man and his fam there...and to party here and there

11:31amAlex

nice

11:33amAlex

Awe, that's a shame though you have to do the long distance thing though

11:34amVanessa

its not that bad...its only been alil over a month and he comin back here in may to stay so i do suck but its wateve...better to wait then deal with some of the lames ass here.

11:34amAlex

Awe, that's a shame though you have to do the long distance thing though

I did that for a spell once, but sometimes you just have to not let that get in your way

11:36amVanessa

yea i wanted for my ex for 7 months only to find out that the bitch cheated on me anyways...people suck

waited

11:36amAlex

yeah, it happens, I've had that too, sometimes you just got to learn from it

11:37amVanessa

oh i dont seem to learn at all cause im always wit the assholes

11:37amAlex

awe

11:37amVanessa

but this one aint so thats why im waitin

i was never in to the pushovers

but then i thought nothin wrong with a man that just loves to be next to me

11:39amAlex

well, just take it slow, the long distance can be hard, but it also cuts on getting to know them in some instances. Be careful is all, not being negative, but i've been there

11:40amVanessa

i use to kick it wit him back in the day...i already know dude so im not worried

11:40amAlex

well that's good

why is he out there?

11:41amVanessa

helpin his fam out that lives there

but since we 2gether now he wants to come back

helpin his fam out that lives there

11:42amAlex

cool

well, I wish you all the best of luck, maybe this one will be the one

11:44amAlex

me, on the other hand, I'm not really pursuing anymore, if I find someone worth spending time in, then i'll hang out, and then whatever happens, happens.

11:55amVanessa

thats the best way to go...when you dont look thats when they come around

11:56amAlex

that's what I figure, because that happened lot and I don't have the patience for tradition guero dating, i'd rather just hang and let it happen natrually

11:57amVanessa

yea...also when u wit someone thats when it seems that others wana talk to you more...i dont know why that is

11:58amAlex

I KNOW! RIGHT!?!?

Don't you hate/love that? HA HA!

12:00pmVanessa

i hate it more then anything but its wateve....i work at a bar so i hear shit almost every day...

12:01pmAlex

ha, true that

It's interesting, makes it harder, but then again, variety is the spice of life

but it does present the idea of having to know one's self to choose who really is a better fit and match

hate to say it, but all's fair in love and war

and we have to really be for ourselves if we want to be happy

12:03pmVanessa

yea but what kind of person are you really to make somone else unhappy just so you can be better off....plus if u meet someone that has someone else and is will to try and get at you...what kind of person is that?

12:04pmAlex

yeah, that's the problem too

see, when two people are in a relationship that works, they only want to make each other happy

verses saying they want the others to just make them happy.

12:05pmVanessa

and what makes you think that if they are willin to do that to them for you what makes you think they aint going to do that to you with someone else

12:05pmAlex

and that's where you would hope if a person saw something wasn't working they would try to remove themselves, instead of just lingering and doing damage to both paries

12:06pmVanessa

u just dont go there if they got someone...wait til they dont

12:06pmAlex

yeah, love is a hard thing

12:06pmVanessa

it aint love at first

12:06pmAlex

Yeah, it's lust

12:06pmVanessa

its lust

12:06pmAlex

but you can't have love without a little bit of lust

and if it were true and real, you would wait

love is patient, kind, not jealous or spiteful

12:07pmVanessa

love is just a word

its what you do that mkes it count

12:08pmAlex

that's true

Do you believe in unconditional love?

Vanessa

but then i thought nothin wrong with a man that just loves to be next to me

11:39amAlex

well, just take it slow, the long distance can be hard, but it also cuts on getting to know them in some instances. Be careful is all, not being negative, but i've been there

11:40amVanessa

i use to kick it wit him back in the day...i already know dude so im not worried

11:40amAlex

well that's good

why is he out there?

11:41amVanessa

helpin his fam out that lives there

but since we 2gether now he wants to come back

helpin his fam out that lives there

11:42amAlex

cool

well, I wish you all the best of luck, maybe this one will be the one

11:44amAlex

me, on the other hand, I'm not really pursuing anymore, if I find someone worth spending time in, then i'll hang out, and then whatever happens, happens.

11:55amVanessa

thats the best way to go...when you dont look thats when they come around

11:56amAlex

that's what I figure, because that happened lot and I don't have the patience for tradition guero dating, i'd rather just hang and let it happen natrually

11:57amVanessa

yea...also when u wit someone thats when it seems that others wana talk to you more...i dont know why that is

11:58amAlex

I KNOW! RIGHT!?!?

Don't you hate/love that? HA HA!

12:00pmVanessa

i hate it more then anything but its wateve....i work at a bar so i hear shit almost every day...

12:01pmAlex

ha, true that

It's interesting, makes it harder, but then again, variety is the spice of life

but it does present the idea of having to know one's self to choose who really is a better fit and match

hate to say it, but all's fair in love and war

and we have to really be for ourselves if we want to be happy

12:03pmVanessa

yea but what kind of person are you really to make somone else unhappy just so you can be better off....plus if u meet someone that has someone else and is will to try and get at you...what kind of person is that?

12:04pmAlex

yeah, that's the problem too

see, when two people are in a relationship that works, they only want to make each other happy

verses saying they want the others to just make them happy.

12:05pmVanessa

and what makes you think that if they are willin to do that to them for you what makes you think they aint going to do that to you with someone else

12:05pmAlex

and that's where you would hope if a person saw something wasn't working they would try to remove themselves, instead of just lingering and doing damage to both paries

12:06pmVanessa

u just dont go there if they got someone...wait til they dont

12:06pmAlex

yeah, love is a hard thing

12:06pmVanessa

it aint love at first

12:06pmAlex

Yeah, it's lust

12:06pmVanessa

its lust

12:06pmAlex

but you can't have love without a little bit of lust

and if it were true and real, you would wait

love is patient, kind, not jealous or spiteful

12:07pmVanessa

love is just a word

its what you do that mkes it count

12:08pmAlex

that's true

Do you believe in unconditional love?

12:10pmVanessa

no

and this death do us part stuff

u could only know that when one loved one dies

you dont see that a lot anymore

12:11pmAlex

hmmm, maybe, but I bet you would know that sooner than you think, that's only if you have the wits to be aware of that though

12:12pmVanessa

plus all these KIDS these days gettin married and havin kids at 17...u know they ass aint stayin together...These days all people want to do is get some ass

12:12pmAlex

Yeah, i'll agree it's not there like it used to be, but then one could argue we didn't before either and it's still evolving.

Yeah, getting married and having children are not real accomplishments

it's what you do with them that matters

12:13pmVanessa

i dont see it gettin any better any time soon

and ur right....just cause u have a kid dont make u a parent

12:13pmAlex

yeah, totally

12:13pmVanessa

or gettin married dont make you a couple

it just makes you two people that signed the same paper

12:14pmAlex

yeah

and it's odd how people change and disguise themselves

my sister in law for one

what a ruse she pulled on us

hell, even I got tricked a few times

12:15pmVanessa

yea im not to crazy with the women that my brothers are wit

but thats them and not me...got my own things to worry about

12:15pmAlex

yeah

I do like my little brother's girl alot more this time around

but you should give unconditional love a shot

I still believe in it

used to be all the way there, and even though I've been hurt and corrupted by the bad ones, I've still got the glimmer in my heart and I'm trying to get it back

12:18pmVanessa

its all just words..when i have somone that loves me...all i need to do is feel it...words dont me anything if youdont feel it

i have heard it all...i just wana feel it

12:19pmAlex

I can understand that

well, once you feel it then, you'll know what I'm talking about

and sometimes, it's not even feeling it from someone, it's giving it TO someone

Vanessa

oh ok

i have gave it and got fucked

12:21pmAlex

yeah, but it's still there

give it time

if you've got total respect for yourself, exclude the cynicism, you'll get there

12:21pmVanessa

ok....im not lookin for that...im just for the moment RIGHT NOW

12:21pmAlex

but you know you're worth it, which is more than I can say for most

yeah, be the moment, that's the best way to reset

12:22pmVanessa

yup

12:24pmAlex

yeah, you know that's a big deal, don't you think

knowing one is "worth it"?

12:25pmVanessa

yea i do...but its hard to think after the bullshit that people do to you..im kinda a bitch because all that has been done and said to me

12:28pmAlex

I mean, I'm to the point that it's just not worth it to me to have to uplift someone forever, i think I need someone to be my equal, not a weight

yeah, I am too, I've become a bit more angry than I used to be and I hate that

when people don't get what they want, they can be pretty ruthless

12:30pmVanessa

yea...so im tryin not to b a bitch to my man now since he has been nothin but nice to me but its still hard

12:32pmAlex

I bet, I've become like that too a little

12:33pmAlex

I used to think it ment this person wasn't good for me, which it could have been, but I think it's just me growing to be more defensive too

of course, I need an energy in a person too, and the most recent ones didn't have any

12:38pmVanessa

yea...i just need to 4get about what has went down in the past and look and what i got now...noone is the same...not even the assholes...

12:43pmAlex

hey, i've got a customer here, so I've got to go, but text me sometime, good to talk to you

12:43pmVanessa

have a good day

12:44pmAlex

i haven't had a good talk in years

adois